Ever felt like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, pushing you to rush into settling down? Don't sweat it, we've all been there. We kick off the conversation discussing societal pressures thrust upon us to find 'the one,' and how liberating it can be to embrace the joy of being single. Sharing our personal experiences with these expectations, we aim to shed light on the trials and tribulations of the dating scene.
Navigating the choppy waters of societal expectations doesn't end with just being single. We also address the pressures and expectations surrounding marriage, particularly in today's fast-paced world. Through an engaging dialogue, we unpack the different pressures men face when it comes to settling down. Buckle up as we explore the importance of resisting comparison and embracing the unpredictability of life.
Whether you're single, hitched, or somewhere in-between, there's a nugget of wisdom waiting for you in this enlightening episode!
Song is Vino Tinto by SergeQuadrado
Ever felt like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, pushing you to rush into settling down? Don't sweat it, we've all been there. We kick off the conversation discussing societal pressures thrust upon us to find 'the one,' and how liberating it can be to embrace the joy of being single. Sharing our personal experiences with these expectations, we aim to shed light on the trials and tribulations of the dating scene.
Navigating the choppy waters of societal expectations doesn't end with just being single. We also address the pressures and expectations surrounding marriage, particularly in today's fast-paced world. Through an engaging dialogue, we unpack the different pressures men face when it comes to settling down. Buckle up as we explore the importance of resisting comparison and embracing the unpredictability of life.
Whether you're single, hitched, or somewhere in-between, there's a nugget of wisdom waiting for you in this enlightening episode!
Song is Vino Tinto by SergeQuadrado
This is Latina's State of Mind, a podcast created by Latinas for all audiences, where we can share our experiences about love, life and everything in between.
Speaker 2:Hello, hello, welcome to another episode of Latina's State of Mind. What, what, what's going on, ladies? What's new, oh?
Speaker 3:no, diana is struggling over there a little bit Better. No, she's like, yeah, all right.
Speaker 4:You can't hear her, but we're. Yeah, we were struggling.
Speaker 3:One of us was struggling. Yes, speak for yourself, all right you guys.
Speaker 4:What are we going to talk about today?
Speaker 2:We're talking about the single life. Love it. Oh yeah, I think this is exciting. We're going to talk about some of the pressures we feel when we're single, but then we'll also talk about how fun it is.
Speaker 4:Yeah, the advantages of it as well, heck yeah, what do you?
Speaker 1:what should we start with Pressures and then the fun stuff.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I like that, I like it, I like it, I like it, I like it.
Speaker 2:All right, who wants to?
Speaker 3:start.
Speaker 1:I think I could start. Okay, I was single for a really long time. I think I just like really learned to be single. Like after a certain age I was like well, I don't think I'm ever going to find somebody, so I might as well start liking myself and spend time by myself. So I learned to go to dinner by myself, I learned to go to movies by myself, and I feel like the biggest pressure I had was people asking me when are you going to get married? I was always like well, I don't know, because I haven't found somebody. If I knew, I'll tell you. Or they would always be like are you gay? Like if I was gay, I would have a girlfriend. Like I don't know what to tell you Single.
Speaker 3:Yeah, just single, I would have a girlfriend or I wouldn't have a girlfriend.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I would always be like. It was always a I always, I always, I always, I always. I always felt like just once, and then, once I hit 30, it was like so that was a trend.
Speaker 4:Like you're going to. I don't know, Is there a? There's a saying, yeah.
Speaker 1:In English. Oh, You're saying it correctly, like old, old mate that was going to be an old mate. I was going to have no idea. I was saying going to have anybody. I was going to lose my last hope, like I used to get that a lot. So I just felt very time was running out. So I always felt like, well, my gosh, I I'm 30. I need to hurry up and I ended up dating a lot of frogs because of the pressure.
Speaker 4:Kissing them too, yeah. I mean it was fun, but no, but I'm getting there, I'm getting to. That is kind of age, I guess, that I'm starting to feel the pressure a little bit, and it's not necessarily from my parents directly, but they do mention it here and there, very like you know, slide in a sly way.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 4:And I'm just like no, but it's, I'm feeling the pressure a little bit. I, you know, I got my degree, so now they're like okay, and you're more, and I'm more settled down and I'm like they're like okay, you know what's the next step Is it? Is it marriage? And I'm like I don't know. I've so I've been in relationships, but I consider myself to be always single.
Speaker 1:Um, even when in a relationship Yep.
Speaker 2:Oh, I never cheated though. So you're either single or you're gonna be married. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4:Okay, and that's what I've been through all my life, I guess, and um.
Speaker 2:How do your partners feel about that we?
Speaker 4:know, why would they have to know?
Speaker 2:Now they know, though. Dumb question why would they have to know?
Speaker 3:Wow, my bad, we never have to know. Yeah, exactly, I'm just kidding. Can you rethink that question? Re-ask that, yeah.
Speaker 1:I think she got the answer she wanted, Got it.
Speaker 4:Yeah, no, but that was yeah. I'm feeling a little bit pressure now. Um, after all these years just messing around and having a fun life, I mean it's not gonna change after I get married? I hope not.
Speaker 3:But that's how I think about it.
Speaker 2:It's interesting because, like we were talking about it before we started recording, but it is one of the first questions people ask wherever you go. Yes, oh, are you married? Yeah, oh, and you have kids, like that's the second question. Yeah, and why?
Speaker 3:Not yet brah.
Speaker 4:Yeah, what's their business? It's not their business.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't know if I ever felt pressured for my parents when I was younger. I don't think so. I think they knew that I always had like goals and wanting to do other things and wasn't really thinking. Maybe I was thinking about settling down, but I think it's been more like a societal thing that you have to, you know, find your person and then just settle down.
Speaker 4:When I was, I used to. I planned my life when I was younger and I was like okay, I'm going to finish school and then by 25, I'm going to be married, and before 30, I'm going to have two children. I'm almost 30.
Speaker 3:So you're better going because you don't have a lot of time. Okay, even if I want children. So now you need to get married and have kids all within the next few months. Go.
Speaker 1:I think that was the same for me. I was like, oh well, I know I'm going to marry Ricky Martin by the time I'm 23.
Speaker 3:And he had other plans of course. Yeah, that didn't work out for us.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's just like a couple of things or just like one main thing yeah, one major thing. And then I was going to have his babies. By the time I was like 27. I think I wanted to have like four or five of his kids that we were like I was going to marry Ricky Martin, so I was going to have all the money in the world. I was going to be fine you could have as many kids as you want, as many like if you wanted six, I was going to have six with him.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then I hit 30. And well then.
Speaker 3:Ricky Martin came out and then I was like, oh, I have to make a different plan Now. I have to find someone else.
Speaker 4:No, but what really happened when you came to that age that you were supposedly going to be married?
Speaker 1:I was so sad. Well, especially because I grew up so religious, I feel like when you're a religious person, like all all my friends that I grew up around, they were getting married at like 19, 20, 21. And then, like you would go to social gatherings, basically to like try to meet a husband and then, after you get to like 22, no but like, seriously, after you get to like 22 or 23, you're kind of considered like an old me.
Speaker 1:And then I remember being like the person that was like 22, 23, watching the 30 year olds being like, oh my gosh, they're such losers. They don't have a husband.
Speaker 3:And then there was me at 35. Like I made fun of that. That was such a jerk.
Speaker 1:Karma. But no, I was. I feel like it was just like heartbreaking because I had to like make a plan B for my expectations of life. But then, once I got past that, it was like, oh okay, this is not so bad, yeah, so.
Speaker 4:I laughed at myself. I was like you, dumb bitch. You thought.
Speaker 3:And.
Speaker 1:I just carried on with it I still have that moment like oh, I think every time you hit the smile like 25 and you didn't get married, you're like, you're so stupid.
Speaker 4:I had an existential crisis at 25. I think all of us did yeah.
Speaker 2:That's good to know. I think all of us did yeah 25, just felt so old, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1:Then I hit 30 and my sister-in-law was like because I also was having a crisis and I was like, oh my gosh, I can't believe it. Like I'm not married, I don't even have a boyfriend, I don't even have kids, like I'm like basically an old person and like I'm just going to die next year, seriously, and she's like your 30s are going to be the best years of your life and I was like what? What she's like honestly, like there's something about your 30s I don't know if it was the way she said it but, man, my 30s have been so much fun.
Speaker 4:Wait, Nancy, did you ever have a plan like that? Like, oh, I'm just going to be married by this certain age?
Speaker 2:No, not in regards to marriage or kids. I never thought about it that way.
Speaker 4:That's good.
Speaker 2:I always thought, if I meet the one, then we'll get married.
Speaker 4:That's when the next step was Put pressure on yourself to do complete certain things by a certain age and at least in the marriage perspective. Not like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I did with school and stuff like that, but not with kids or a person.
Speaker 3:That's awesome.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 4:Not us.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we had a plan.
Speaker 2:And laughed at it later on, and I was never like oh, my wedding's going to be like this and I never.
Speaker 4:Oh yeah, to this day, I don't really have that imagination, I guess.
Speaker 2:Like now I could picture like, oh yeah, like if I get married, my wedding dress will look like this, but it was never like I don't know, like you see in the movies and they're little and they're planning their wedding.
Speaker 4:Oh yeah, that was never me. I like to watch, say yes to the dress and they're always like oh my gosh, it's a little girl. I always dreamed of this and I was like I was not thinking about this as a little girl.
Speaker 1:My best friend Angie and I had a wedding dream book when we were like 14 or 15.
Speaker 2:What's that Movie? Bride Wars yeah.
Speaker 3:I love it. We created our own little booklet, and I still have that book.
Speaker 1:My wedding wasn't that far from the book. I had a Pinterest board about my wedding the minute I knew what Pinterest was and the minute Jerome and I decided to get married, I was like let me plan.
Speaker 2:Do you mean the minute you decided? Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3:The minute I convinced him and I took him out, the minute I was like yeah, yeah, yeah, it's happening, and then he was like twisted arm on the floor.
Speaker 4:Yes, yes, I'll marry you. Oh wait, I'm supposed to ask Exactly.
Speaker 3:I love that.
Speaker 4:No, but I mean we have these pressures because back in the day women had no other choice. After a certain age your parents weren't going to take care of you anymore, so they would marry you off. So I think some of that has probably stuck through, like kind of they're not going to and I mean it's tough now because women can work now and we can have our own credit cards and we can have credit and all that fun stuff. Wait, we can.
Speaker 3:Yeah, Wait what. We had gone back inside.
Speaker 4:I mean honestly with the last presidency we're not going to get into that because, I'll start raging.
Speaker 2:But, it's for another episode.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we'll save that for another episode, but did we go back a bit? Yes, we did. But it's not. It's fairly. I guess not fairly new, but like it wasn't until the 70s or so that women were able to have credit and have homes for themselves and stuff like that, so it's fairly new. So before that they needed a man, they needed the support of a man, they needed a signature of a man, the permission of a man. Oh my gosh, I'm mad already.
Speaker 4:But maybe kind of the pressure came from all the way from that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, it has to yeah. Do you guys think that men also feel a pressure to get married?
Speaker 1:Yo Jerome, just say yes or no. Yes, he said yes, he was nodding yes.
Speaker 2:Interesting.
Speaker 4:I wonder dang it, Jerome, come over to the mic. I wonder what kind of pressure they feel. Do they also feel the pressure of like, oh dang, I'm getting to a certain age and he's saying no, oh dang. So I'm trying to understand where the pressure is coming from.
Speaker 2:Just say things, and then we'll see what he's saying.
Speaker 3:Yes, no, it's not an age thing.
Speaker 1:But here's the thing he's not a good one to ask because I don't think he ever wanted to get married.
Speaker 4:Oh shit, he said yes to that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4:So then you really did pin him down?
Speaker 1:Yes, I basically handcuffed him to his room and didn't let him out until he said he was going to marry me. He said he did that whimming way.
Speaker 2:Jerome again blink twice. He's going to need help.
Speaker 3:Do you need help?
Speaker 2:He's not looking, he looks down.
Speaker 3:Should we tell people who Jerome is, or do they think you think they figured it out?
Speaker 4:I hope you guys know that Jerome is our editor.
Speaker 3:And Saniya says, and Saniya says he willingly asked me to marry him. I did not force him into this relationship. He did not blink twice when I asked I know that must mean that he's so happy, he is happy, he's very happy.
Speaker 1:So yeah, no, Jerome's not a good one.
Speaker 4:He didn't want to get me.
Speaker 1:Well, how to bring someone else that maybe felt a different pressure.
Speaker 2:If we have any male followers, let us know.
Speaker 4:Yes, what kind of pressures?
Speaker 2:we vote because we don't know, but we're interested.
Speaker 4:I'm thinking about my oldest brother right now, because he's the one that's married and he has a child and I think he did get to a point where he wanted a stable relationship, where he said OK, I think I'm ready now, and I don't know what changed in him, because he used to be I'm sorry, eddie, he used to be a hoe.
Speaker 3:We didn't have to use his name. It's OK, that's his nickname. That's not his real name. That's his nickname. He knows who he is.
Speaker 2:He knows who he is.
Speaker 3:And we're going to post a picture of him for reference.
Speaker 4:He used to have me I'm just kidding, but he got to a point and I remember seeing that and I was like, oh, that's weird, because there was a change from him oh, I'm going to go out with this, do that, that, that. And then he got to a point where he was like, oh, I think I'm going to settle down, and that to me was very weird, but I'm going to ask him more about that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, please do.
Speaker 4:I don't know how or when it changed, but I definitely saw the change.
Speaker 2:Do you guys think that a lot of people end up settling down with people who they shouldn't be because of that pressure?
Speaker 4:Yes, it makes me very sad, yeah because I've had the opportunity to settle down, but I was like no, I got OK, so my parents get me everything. As you may know, I may be spoiled.
Speaker 1:No, we, oh my gosh, did you know this?
Speaker 3:Is this shocking news to me? I'm like OK.
Speaker 4:So for me it's very difficult to settle down because I'm like, well, if you're not going to give me the attention that I require, that I need, I'm going to get it from my parents and they're going to go love me yeah. So I'm always like I need to get what I need and require, or else I'm going to get it somewhere else. So I've been, I've been close to it, but then I wake up right in the moment like, no, I don't want to do this, because this is not enough for me.
Speaker 1:That's good, I feel like for me. I almost settled in my last relationship because I felt like it was either that or I was just going to be alone. And at that time in my life I felt like I really wanted a kid and maybe if I just got a kid out of this I would be OK. And then I was like this is so selfish, like why would you do that? And so like I had to slap myself around and like get myself together and be like no, you deserve way better than somebody that doesn't really care for you or is just showing you like the worst in him.
Speaker 1:So I was like, no, I can't, I can't do that to myself, I deserve better than that. And thank God and the universe and everything else that I didn't settle there. Because just a little bit past that like I just have to go a little bit past to get to wonderful. Just a little bit, yeah, just like a little longer to get to wonderful. And I, yeah, I'm so happy, yeah, you know what's crazy.
Speaker 4:Crazy what you mentioned about having children or having a child with this individual. Just to kind of settle down, I feel like it happens very often.
Speaker 1:Yeah, sadly.
Speaker 4:I think sadly, exactly, and I think it's very selfish.
Speaker 1:It is.
Speaker 4:You're not. First of all, you're not even giving yourself the life that you deserve or the partner that you deserve. But now you're bringing a child into the equation. And now that child? I don't think you may give them the money, all of the attention, but the other person might not, because this is not, maybe this is not what they wanted, and so now that child may or may not suffer from that lack of attention as well. So I think it's very selfish and I hope you guys understand that you should do better for yourself. Yeah, don't do it Don't settle.
Speaker 2:So let's talk about how incredible it was to be single.
Speaker 4:I've had so much fun. Yes, same.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we Sene and I would go out a lot, a lot, same A lot, and we would have so much fun.
Speaker 1:I don't think there was ever a time where we were out together that was not like memorable that was like not like super fun, like everything we did. We were just like so free and just messed around, like we were just living our best lives.
Speaker 2:And we were never like hoping to find someone. No, it was never about that it was just like enjoying our lives and just hanging out with each other and it was amazing yeah.
Speaker 4:I didn't live with that, with you guys. I know.
Speaker 2:You weren't around at that time.
Speaker 4:I was not I was you were still in middle school, dang it.
Speaker 3:What year was this?
Speaker 4:I may have not been old enough to actually party with you guys, but once I was able to yeah, I also had the same experience and there was nights where we were. It was weeks that we went out Wednesday, thursday, friday, saturday- Sunday Sunday brunch.
Speaker 4:Mimosas, mimosas, bottomless mimosas and the in the in the weekend right and the weekend, exactly, and the right I yeah, but I also had those moments where you were just, we were just hanging out with friends and we were just being ourselves and we had no care about relationships or we had no care about our partner because we didn't have partners and it was, yeah, it was amazing. I still I don't remember a lot of the nights, but same. But I know that you heard them.
Speaker 3:They were great. I heard they were great.
Speaker 4:I've heard of them questionable things, and others did as well, but we won't talk about that. No, but yes, it's being single and being to appreciate the single life, and I don't know, it's first of all, it's life changing when you learn to appreciate it yes. Because you change your perspective and like oh, I'm alone, la da, da, da, oh, but no, you're not really alone, you have friends to hang out with and they're filling out. They're filling in that, I guess, space that you needed to fill in and you make memorable.
Speaker 1:I feel like then I learned to become my favorite company, like because I feel like I could spend time by myself and like the person that I was hanging out with, like I could do crafting, I could just watch a movie by myself, I could like just do things on my own. And a lot of the times it felt like I was just good, like I didn't need anything. And then there was those times where I was like I had to hang out with Nancy and I get to hang out with Gabby. I'm so excited and I was going to be great and we're going to have so much fun when we took our trip to Miami. Like that was amazing and like you know it.
Speaker 1:But not only was I like learning to have fun with just my girlfriends, but I was also learning to love myself in every experience. Like I was learning to like appreciate myself. And there were so many times where I was like, oh guys, does this look okay, or do you think I should wear this? And it was like, yes, queen, you got this. And like that support that you get from those girlfriends and those people that truly love you, I feel like you can get that from anywhere else, like a partner can give you that you can have that honest, just love for each other. I mean, you have to have really good people in your life and we were lucky to find each other, but I had so much fun. I do it again.
Speaker 2:Yeah, me too. But yeah, I think you're right. I think that's the key Finding people who love you and who can spend time with you and you don't hate it, and, at the same time, learning to love yourself and the time that you spend with your with your own plots, because that can be difficult and hopefully that prepares you for a relationship in the future and you can see like, oh, this is something that I really want and not something that I feel like I should have because I have the pressure from wherever society or family or whatever it is.
Speaker 4:Yeah, did you think that you reached that moment before you were married? Yeah, how did you notice it? Did you feel it? Did you I feel like?
Speaker 1:what I was ready, like after we had partied after I think I was I was like ready to look for somebody and settle down, like I could feel myself just like longing for a family, longing for babies and longing for all those things. I just didn't know, because I I've never been good at dating like I was never good at dating, like I was. Just it's dating is awkward.
Speaker 3:So awkward.
Speaker 1:And then she's like I'm an expert, we forgot.
Speaker 3:Sorry, she's a Leo.
Speaker 1:Leo season. But I was just really like awkward at it and I wasn't good at dating so it was just difficult for me putting myself out there. But I feel like once I actually gave myself a chance, it was like, oh, okay, this, this feels all right, like this feels okay. And then once I met Jerome, it was like, oh, this is yeah, this is it for me, like I love this guy.
Speaker 2:I think you have to be open to meeting people, yeah, so that's why I love what Diana was saying before, even though she was lying, but you know.
Speaker 1:She's like wait, what was I lying about this when you were?
Speaker 2:with the boy and they didn't know that you were single still.
Speaker 4:But my point is first of all, I wasn't lying, I don't lie.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry, admitting the truth. Yes, exactly, thank you. My point is, you know, if you're single right now, just enjoy it, because it's going to be like the best memories you have Just make the best of it.
Speaker 1:Don't pressure yourself. I feel like don't pressure yourself.
Speaker 4:Do that to ourselves very often. Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 2:Not only from other people, but ourselves. Yeah, yeah, like.
Speaker 1:I feel like we I did it to myself like because you hear people telling you that after 30, you're considered what's the word Geriatric for having kids, and it's like, oh man, now I'm old, Like if I want to have kids, I better hurry up.
Speaker 1:My biological clock is ticking and yeah, like that is a pressure, but like you can't base your entire life on that. You know, like you can't, like there's just certain things that you just can't walk around and move around and it will just make you miserable If you focus on that part and like, just instead of enjoying the single life and really enjoying the single life.
Speaker 4:I mean, I've been hearing this, but I guess another time is that we all have a different timeline. We all have a different, I guess, movement. So someone else's life is not going to match yours. Someone else's quote unquote perfect life is not going to be. You're not going to have that life. And you might and you can in your own perspective, but you shouldn't compare it and you shouldn't compare the timeline of another individual who has had most likely different experiences in you. Yeah, and I think that's a huge thing that we shouldn't be comparing each other's timelines. I love that.
Speaker 2:Or even being willing to pivot right. Yeah, if you have your own timeline and it doesn't happen. Okay, like change it up? Yeah.
Speaker 4:Let's be open for the change. Exactly, I love change. I like it.
Speaker 1:I don't, and I think that was hard for me. But you just have to embrace it Right, suck it up and keep going, like there's something else you can do. I think back about like my, my first boyfriend. I had my first boyfriend when I was 19. And I think about like how I'm 19. I was like, yeah, I'm going to marry this guy, he's going to be the love of my life, we're going to have kids and da, da, da, da da. But today, at 39, I'm like, oh my gosh, like I cannot even imagine like being married at 23. Like being married at 19 would have been awful and that relationship would have not lasted anyway, so it would have been like a mess. And I think back of myself 10 years ago and I'm like, oh, I don't think it was mature enough to be married and I think I got married when I was ready.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it doesn't mean that people can't do it, and yeah right it works out for some people my brother and sister-in-law got married at 21.
Speaker 1:Oh wow, They've been married for like 20 years.
Speaker 4:It works for some people? Yeah, some people, yeah. Do you think it's because they needed each other? They needed the company in order to like, learn about themselves.
Speaker 1:I don't know. Well, I think they're good together.
Speaker 4:I think they're wonderful together, yeah. But I guess that's a different perspective.
Speaker 1:Exactly.
Speaker 4:Maybe they needed each other to figure themselves out together.
Speaker 1:Maybe that's crazy. We'll have to talk to them about it, right?
Speaker 2:Well, I think it's time to change the subject of our conversation. Do, is it? Yeah?
Speaker 4:Yeah, what are we going to?
Speaker 1:talk about. Oh, what time is it? What time is it?
Speaker 4:What time is it Time for Diana's daily shit? Mother fuckers Wow.
Speaker 3:I came in fall for that one, oh man.
Speaker 1:Oh Diana, what are we going to talk about?
Speaker 4:Today we're going to talk about a heavy topic. Oh, no it has become, and it should have been for a really long time. Oh no it's just climate change, but that's not real. Get out of here, open the door and leave.
Speaker 3:Science is not real, I'm just kidding. They wouldn't even climate change. They appreciate it.
Speaker 4:Oh my gosh, I just there was. I was just mentioning this. Mentioning this a bit ago, there was an image of people celebrating the record high heat somewhere in Arizona and someone celebrating yeah, because they were pointing to a digital thermometer. Like all happy, like the. It's some sort of like Rangers or female cause. The record was being broken Exactly so they were pointing at it, smiling and being happy as if that was a good thing.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 4:And so one of the mean like a meme of that was it's imagine dinosaurs celebrating the asteroids. It's kind of that same perspective, like OK, the dinosaurs were killed by this and now here we are, human, celebrating. Not celebrating, but enjoying the high heat.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, but I don't think you can enjoy 130 degree weather. Well, these, yeah, we're from.
Speaker 4:Colorado. So it's a different perspective. And we don't have those. I don't think. At least we have those record high heats of 130, some Fahrenheit Exactly. But yeah, these people celebrating or enjoying this it's, it's questionable, like, do you understand that? We are to a point that we are going to die? We're getting to a point where we're going to die. We're going to and, yeah, whatever we might evolve to be able to handle these, but I don't. It's not going to happen fast enough.
Speaker 4:No we're not going to evolve right away in order to handle these types of heat, and it's just yeah. I shout out to all of the people that make little changes to their life or make huge changes to their life in order to combat this, but where we really need to see the change is from corporations. Yes, and they don't give two fucks about us and they just keep burning up the world, basically, which is interesting Because once we're out of this world, like, what are they going to do with our money?
Speaker 1:I don't fucking know. That's what I don't understand.
Speaker 4:Are you going to eat your money?
Speaker 1:Yeah, is your money going to save you?
Speaker 4:Is your money going to save you? Maybe? Maybe you're going to be able to travel to another planet. Are you going to be able to live there long? No, what are you going to do with your money out there? Nothing. Try talking to a fucking alien. Beep boop, beep boop.
Speaker 3:I've never known that you were this passionate about climate change.
Speaker 1:And I am so here for it and I love it.
Speaker 4:It's just really annoying to learn about all these huge corporations that have the funds to make a change, to make a real change, to make a real change in society and, despite knowing the facts, despite knowing the science, despite knowing everything that needs to be known about this, they don't care, they don't care and they all they care about people consuming and kind of, in a way, brainwashing people to keep consuming without the interest or without, yeah, I guess without the interest of the earth where we live and where we need to be in order to have this world and to have this commerce to survive.
Speaker 1:To survive.
Speaker 4:Right. So it's just. It's very sad and unfortunately I don't have a solution for this except for stop trying to consume from these corporations that are not helping. But it's also. It's very hard to do so, yeah, and I wish there was more action from our governments to put some regulations.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and educating kids.
Speaker 4:Educating kids.
Speaker 2:Hopefully we have time, but there should be a topic that is discussed, since you're an elementary school Girl.
Speaker 4:they're not even discussed in certain books because of how I know. Girl, oh my gosh Another topic.
Speaker 3:Write it down.
Speaker 4:I know, I know, I know We'll talk about banned books later on, but it's so unfortunate that education is being limited, and it's being limited in such a way that we're not learning about what is currently affecting us right now, and it's just. It's very disappointing, it's very disheartening, but it's happening and so we have to do something.
Speaker 1:At one point.
Speaker 4:you have to care about this At one point we have to care, and I fear that it's going to be at the last minute.
Speaker 1:And it's going to be too late.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that's my fear, and we're just going to boil to nothing and I'm going to have to suffer through that instead of being sucked through a hole, through a black hole.
Speaker 2:Thanks for clarifying. Yeah, I know that, I know, I know.
Speaker 3:Anyways.
Speaker 1:I know it's a downer.
Speaker 2:No, it's not a downer.
Speaker 4:Yes, it is a downer.
Speaker 3:It's a downer, but it's some.
Speaker 4:It's a downer, it's a downer, it's a downer, but it's some. It's a downer, it's a downer, it's a downer, it's a downer, it's a downer, it's a downer, it's a downer.
Speaker 1:But it's some legitimate thing to be mad about, and I think we should all be mad about it, so that maybe there could be some more change to it and it's not a political issue.
Speaker 2:No this is real life for everyone, for everyone.
Speaker 1:We should all be doing something.
Speaker 4:We should all be having some sort of call to action, because sure, you can be a Democrat or a Republican, but guess what? You're still going to boil to death.
Speaker 2:And that was.
Speaker 4:Sienna's English and in that note Figured out before you boiled to death. Thank you, have a good night everyone.
Speaker 3:Oh my gosh, I don't know what else to say. Any closing thoughts? What were we talking about? I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 4:I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know what were we talking about.
Speaker 3:What were we talking about? Single life.
Speaker 4:Single life, oh gosh. Well, you know what? We're not going to have single life.
Speaker 2:I knew you were going to say that.
Speaker 3:I knew If we don't have the world. Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 4:So all those single peoples out there Love your earth and do something for it. Yes, thank you, that was beautiful. I'm closing.
Speaker 1:Close your eyes, closing thoughts. Enjoy your single life. Enjoy it, yes.
Speaker 4:What should people tell other, those nosy people that say I ain't married yet?
Speaker 1:They say just be like, eh, it'll happen when it happens yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just don't be embarrassed, it's not a big issue. Yeah, like you'll find your person when you find your person and it's nobody's business.
Speaker 1:And if you don't find your person, make yourself your own person, exactly.
Speaker 2:And if you want to say something, or if you don't want to respond to that and be like I don't want to respond to that, then that's fine too, yep.
Speaker 4:That's your response. No, no is a whole sentence. I love you. It's my favorite word. No, that's your favorite sentence. Word slash sentence, because you could say no and you don't need an explanation after that.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 4:No, well, yeah.
Speaker 2:You don't have to explain yourself.
Speaker 4:I'm not even right. Optional.
Speaker 1:Optional Are you?
Speaker 4:married.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 4:No, are you going to get married?
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 4:Do you have plans of having children? No, it doesn't matter if it's true or not. Yeah and no.
Speaker 1:That's it. I like it. Just say no, except for when you're there. Somebody's asking you to get married. Then, and if you love them and they're the right person, say maybe, say yes.
Speaker 4:If they make you happy. If they make you happy, say yes. If you feel like you're settling down, you're most likely settling down.
Speaker 3:Say no.
Speaker 1:Period.
Speaker 4:Period.
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